Why It’s Important To Do What You Want

This week’s post is going to be slightly different than usual.

This week I’ve had multiple big decisions that I had to make mainly ones that involved several other people.

In these cases, it can be easy to let other people’s interests and feelings blind you and back you into a corner. Although you can rationalize why that corner is actually a good decision (as it is what your friends/family want), it really should not be considered unless you are actually indifferent.

You, and only you, are going to look after what you truly want.

Only after you have figured out what you want, then can you attempt to allow yourself to help others. This can seem selfish to some readers, and yes I agree, but it is important to be self-interested. It is also important to balance selflessness and selfishness as you cannot give unless you have and you do not have unless you do not give it all away.

These insights were ones that I had to use this past week and although I didn’t always feel amazing about my decisions (as some people had to get left out or did not get exactly what they wanted), I knew that they were the best ones I could make.

Hope this helps anyone else,

David

Wise Like Jocko Willing

 

The 3rd Edition of the “Wise Like” commentaries continue with SEAL Jocko Willing who I find to be extremely interesting. I highly suggest everybody look into this individual by listening to any podcast he stars in.

Here are the most important lessons I’ve documented down below:

(P.S. There are so many good ones but these are the best in my opinion)

1. Discipline Equals Freedom

Pre-schedule normal reoccurring activities to execute everything else the rest of the day. What I mean by that is, make yourself a schedule where you have certain blocks of time where you allot to habits and small events that you do consistently. For example, shower times, workout times, morning rituals, etc.

That way, you can free up the rest of your day to do whatever you want. By being disciplined and doing what you need to do every day based on your planning beforehand, you give yourself the freedom to do what you want.

2. Exposing Yourself to Darkness to See the Light

Enjoy the light by first seeing darkness. This simple saying can have massive effect on your lives. What Jocko is preaching is that for any person to realize that their situation is bright and positive they must have something to compare it to. If they have grown up in darkness, or a situation that looked bleak and negative, when you consider your current situation you will think of all the good things you do have.

This is common practice when considering what you are grateful for. If you remind yourself of all the luxuries you are surrounded with compared to what the poorest of poor have, you then realize that your situation is actually quite amazing!

3. If you want to be tougher, be tougher

This is clear and concise. If you want to get better at anything, just go out and force yourself. You will be in awe at how simple and easy it is to accomplish many of the goals you have for yourself.

4. Extreme ownership

No excuses. Take control of your life and make sh*t happen. Handle what needs to get done and now and don’t let anyone else do it for you.

 

Now, start implementing these ideals into your daily lives and live every day epic!

Thanks for reading! 🙂

 

Wise like Marc Andreessen

This week’s mentor for all of us is named Marc Andreessen who has amassed a large pile of wealth in his career.

This is a man who has experienced ambition and clearly worked towards his goals without an end in sight.

Although I did not yet finish the chapter on March, I caught one idea that stood out for me. Now this concept is something that could affect people in different ways but what it did for me was made me focus on what I was doing outside of my work.

He mentions the nerd at night principle which I might have butchered slightly but the main idea is – what is that individual (you) doing at night, what keeps them up and interested. Are they a fanatic for sports, science, reality TV, etc.

What drives them and gives them pleasure. Or do they do absolutely nothing at all besides sit and eat potato chips all night.

Now this can be used as a question for new hires for business, or even a first date question but what I find relates most to me is the idea of focusing on my strengths. What I mean by that is I should be looking at what I enjoy and spend time on and double down in those areas to gain a larger expertise and depth so that later in life I can capitalize on those in some way.

What I believe is that it’s nice to have a breadth of interests but it is more beneficial these days to be a specialist than to be average in everything.

That’s what I took away from this very intelligent man’s saying.

Let me know what you think or if you know anything about Marc and his philosophies that is worth sharing.

Have a great night,

David

Wise like BJ Miller

My second journey into the Tools of Titans buffet was to learn how to be as wise as BJ Miller.

First of all, if you don’t know who this man is, like I did at first, I suggest you check him out on YouTube by searching for his Ted Talk – What Really Matters at the of Life.

It’s inspirational and it is deeply impactful.

This week’s top takeaways from Miller are a couple of reactionary ideas to put into practice. What I mean by that, is that these principles should be the first reaction you have once each scenario takes place.

Star Gazing Method:

Whenever you are at a point in life where you are overwhelmed with stress or are begging to feel a wave of anxiety take you over stop what you are doing and look up to the sky. If you are inside, take a look out the window and begin to think about where you are. Next, imagine you are up in the sky, in the stars looking down at yourself from all the way up there. Think about how small of a dot you take up in the entire planet. Now backup even more, look outside of Earth and imagine yourself on the outside of the solar system looking down at our planet.

What I’m getting at, and what BJ Miller wants to remind us in these times of stress, is that put what you are dealing with and give yourself some perspective. It’s easy to think everyone revolves around you but much more difficult to realize how little it really does.

Question your I can’ts:

BJ’s second lesson I learned was how much we believe in what we think and say. If we took some time to question our beliefs and assumptions we would realize that we aren’t right all the time.

For example, a lot of our “I can’ts” stem from the fact that we don’t want to do something or that we simply won’t do something because we believe we are better than that or on the flip side not good enough.

In reality, many of these goals, challenges and actions CAN be completed. We just never put any effort or thought into it in the first place.

In the end, I believe what BJ Miller wants us to learn the most is that we should enjoy life without limitations. Enjoy the simple and small pleasures of life and let life take you places.